I have this quote as a screen saver on my phone at the moment as a constant reminder to work on this every single day. I struggle so badly to create balance in the health and fitness corner of my world. I am either eating like a body builder and training excessively at the gym, or I am sitting on the couch with a packet of Tim Tams with zero motivation to even look at my gym clothes let alone put them on my body! There is no inbetween and I know I need to change this… ASAP!
My approach to my living a healthy life is far from balanced. Firstly, I need to eliminate the word “diet” from my vocabulary because to me it is an evil, misleading word that just makes me want to eat cupcakes all day long. Generally, I lead a pretty active and healthy life. I exercise regularly and I eat plenty of nutritious food. Sounds good right? Wrong. Quite often, I will have a bad body day (don’t we all!) and I will stand in front of the mirror and pick apart every single inch of my body. The very next day I will start a 100% clean diet, exercise like it’s going out of fashion and in the following days I turn into a crazy, angry monster and will eat everything in sight. I then end up with an overwhelming feeling of hate for myself not to mention feeling like an absolute failure. This cycle usually repeats itself at least every 1-2 months. I’m done with it. I am done with this approach to how I am treating myself and my body.
I am craving balance. In my ideal world I want to continue to eat delicious healthy food but if I really want a slice of cake or a piece of chocolate, then I will go right ahead and eat it but not feel guilty. I always talk about “everything in moderation” and it’s about time I actually do what I say. I am going to love myself for it and it’s going to be incredible to not feel like I have to punish myself.
I think loving yourself isn’t as easy as it sounds. It’s tough to stand naked in a mirror and 100% accepting of what you see. Would I be right in saying that almost everyone has something they want to change about themselves? For sure! We are bombarded with images of photoshopped extra-perky bums and airbrushed skin everywhere we look. It is drummed into our heads that we are meant to look a certain way and it is so overwhelming. I constantly feel like I am competing against these perfect women who don’t even exist.
When I look at the people who inspire and motivate me they are strong, confident, motivated and 100% themselves. They have a sparkle that is beautiful and so addictive. They have an undeniable sense of self-love and self-acceptance. Sure, they have struggles and battles, but it’s the way the handle them that sets them apart. I want that. I want that sparkle and that confidence to do whatever I bloody want!
One woman that inspires me, is a popular blogger called “Mama Lion Strong” aka Jennifer Campbell. She is an incredible mother of 3 beautiful boys and she is on a mission to support women to eat healthy, be healthy and to teach us how to accept ourselves, exactly the way we are. If you are searching for a huge boost of empowerment, strength and a set of tools to create and maintain a positive body image then please check her out.
Now I’m not expecting to wake up tomorrow morning and have this self-love business all sorted out. It’s going to take time but I think the best place to start is to focus on the parts of me I do really love and dismiss any negative thoughts that may pop into my head. I am an individual and I am perfect just the way I am!
What things do you do to encourage a lil bit of love for yourself and create balance in your life? Leave me a comment!
Love Melanie xo